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First dates are tough, is it all just a game?

Dear Date Knight,
I’ve gone on a few dates with someone new. He never offered to pick me up, we always meet at the movie theater or restaurant. This really confuses me, it does not do anything for me, so I’m not warming up to him or opening up to him. He is looking for affection but I don’t feel romantic when I’m driving alone to and from our date. I like him otherwise but I really don’t want to go on another date with him. Should I ask him why he doesn’t want to pick me up or just stop seeing him without any explanation?

Vera
Well, I have to say I don’t know; I’m stumped. Have you seen his car? Does he have one? Is it a POS? He may be ashamed of what he’s driving. He may have also not wanted to come off creepy. Perhaps he would feel imposing to come to your home. Have you mentioned your living arrangements? Do you still live w/ your parents? Some guys really get weirded out about meeting parents too soon. If you don’t live with your parents it is completely acceptable to say pick me up at 7. I wouldn’t take it personally that is for sure. He may not even have thought about it being an issue. I do think that if you don’t have chemistry now, you’re not going to find it in a Ford Taurus, ya know? I really don’t believe that it is the intimacy of a car ride that’s keeping you from romance. If you don’t find it over dinner or sitting close in a dark theater sharing a laugh, it’s probably not there to find! Try it one last time, be direct but not pushy. If he doesn’t want to come get you for whatever reason, this will be the time that it comes out.

Dear Date Knight,
I had a great first date with a girl. How long should I wait to call her? I really want to call her but I’ve always been told I have to wait a few days. What’s the proper amount of time to wait before calling to set up a second date?

Jesse,
I hope you didn’t wait for my response to call her! Ok, so here’s the game: we ladies want you to call the next day, maybe even a text that night to make sure we got home ok. We love that shit! Makes the panties DROP! Here’s the rub though - you have to play it cool. We love attention, but we do NOT want to be smothered. Keep it brief, and if you want to go out again ask her but set it a few days out. This shows your interest but doesn’t come on too strong. Never be afraid to call the next day if you had a good time.