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To text or not to text that is the question

Dear Date Knight,

I went on a date with a guy last week and didn’t he didn’t contact me after it. I was glad because it wasn’t that great. Today, he emailed me asking me to text him at work so he wouldn’t be bored. I really don’t want too. Should I just tell him I’m not interested or just ignore him? How do I let him know I don’t want to talk to him anymore?
Susanne

Dear Susanne,

Whoever the a-hole was that said honesty is the best policy didn’t have to deal with a lame date. Firsties, what kind of go-getter sends a bunch of texts from work to be entertained? Dude, it’s called initiative, so find some and do your freakin’ job! Second, why is it your job to be his dancing monkey? How flattered you must have felt that you weren’t good enough for a 2nd date but ok to occupy his monotonous day. How about a text that said “I had a good time and wondered how you’ve been?” This my friend, was a back pocket booty call text for sure! He thinks you dig him and will string you along hoping to eventually use you for a piece. Do not be fooled. If this guy was into you, he would have called or even texted you before now (also, texting a week after a first date is a big ol’ no-no, you call and own that, you pussy!) I say, you ignore the text. If he texts again, you ignore that one too. If you continue to get texts after a week you may have to put it out there. “I DON’T like you buddy!”  But I’m betting this guy won’t have the brass ones to call and will find someone else to cling too in a week or so.

How to get over talking to the hotties

Dear Date Knight,

I have trouble talking to guys that I like or that I think are hot. What should I do? How do I talk to them?
Amy

Dear Amy,

Let’s start with the easy questions: do you have a hump? Do you smell? Is there a lazy eye involved? Probably, the answer to these questions is no. In that case, you have the upper hand here. If you are a woman who has anything interesting to say, a guy will normally listen. He may look at your boobs while doing it but, well, think of them as your door opener. Most guys, even the hot ones, will not be rude to your face. If he is mean or rude to you then that guy is a douche and you should put him out of your head. He’s just bitter over his small wang.

The next and harder question is: what is the root of this issue? Is it inexperience? The best way to gain experience is to just do it! You will get better and better every time. Also, start later in the evening when a guy has had a couple of drinks. They are very chatty at that point. Don’t wait too long though because they just get handsy and incoherent after too many drinkies. About 10:30 to 11:00 is the time to pounce.

The other main reason ladies freeze up is insecurity. If you are insecure, recognize how hard it is for a guy to walk up to a gang of gals and strike up a conversation. That is why he brings a wing man. Pick a friend you feel is equally as hot as you and bring her along. If all you have is smokin’ hot friends, pick the least witty. She can pick up the slack if you go mute or you think your shoes are the wrong color to be worthy. Reality is that he doesn’t even know you have feet, unless he’s into feet and then, well, move on cuz feet guys are creepy.

Last but certainly not least is to avoid the face-to-face bar scene entirely. Perhaps you should join a dating website. Get your feet wet by reaching out to every guy you feel is hot. The best part about online dating is you can censor the message you put out there. You can hone your flirting skills while making some potentially good connections. Who knows? Maybe this is exactly your speed. Communicate and build a relationship before meeting this hotty in person. Online dating is also nice because men on dating websites tend to be looking for a relationship so personality counts just as much as a nice pair.

I think if you take this all a little less seriously and view this as a great way to meet lots of people you will find your inner sex kitten. We all have one; it’s just up to you let her out!

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